Why do we kiss? It's an evolutionary conundrum

NPR | By Emily Kwong,

Hannah Chinn, Rebecca Ramirez

Published February 14, 2026 at 7:28 AM MST

A pair of chimpanzees kiss. Modern primates have been observed kissing in both platonic and sexual contexts ... but what does that tell scientists about how kissing might have evolved?

The evolutionary purpose of kissing has long baffled scientists.

Smooching is risky (teeth) and inherently gross (80 million bacteria are estimated to be transferred in a 10 second kiss). And yet, many animals kiss, from polar bears to albatrosses to prairie dogs.

What gives?

We speak with evolutionary biologist Matilda Brindle at the University of Oxford on what may drive this behavior, what distinguishes different kinds of kissing, and whether culture has anything to do with it.

For more on how Matilda traced kissing through the primate family tree, check out this episode.

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This episode was produced by Hannah Chinn. It was edited by Rebecca Ramirez. Tyler Jones checked the facts. The audio engineer was Robert Rodriguez.